Amber, with pink hair and a sweater, looks into the camera.

Amber

I think a lot 
about relationships. 

It has been hard for me 
to find someone. 

Sometimes it has been completely wrong. 

For example, with Kim. 

Kim only wanted to get together to have sex. 

I wanted to do other things too. 

Like go to the movies 
and hang out with friends together. 

To have a real relationship. 

He didn’t want that. 

It felt like Kim 
only liked my body. 

And not me as a person. 

When sex was over, he left. 
He didn’t care 
if it was nice for me 
or not. 

He never wanted to stay 
and cuddle afterwards. 

Kim often gave me presents. 
Nice jewellery and clothing.

Sometimes it felt 
like he was giving me presents 
so that I would have sex with him. 

I was often sad 
after we met up. 

I felt like I 
should not be with him. 

But I also did not want to 
be alone. 

That is why it took a long time 
before I stopped seeing him.

Amber says, “Fuck you, Kim!”

I want to be with someone 
who makes me happy. 

And who appreciates me 
for who I am! 

It is important 
that you feel good 
in your relationship. 

You never have to 
have sex with someone 
even if you receive money 
or gifts. 

Paying someone 
to have sex is illegal. 
That is called sex for payment 
or prostitution. 

If your relationship 
is making you feel bad, 
it can help 
to talk to someone. 

If you are having sex for payment 
and that is making you feel bad, 
you can get help.