My name is Fanny.
I have always had a hard time saying no.
Because I want people
to like me.
Last summer, I met Mattias.
He wanted us to be together.
I didn’t want that.
But I couldn’t say no.
So we got together anyway.
At first he was nice and sweet.
But he changed
when we started having sex.
I didn’t want to have sex with Mattias.
But it felt like
I had promised him sex.
Just because we were together.
So we had sex anyway.
Sometimes I tried to show
with my body
that I didn’t want to.
But he didn’t care.
A few times, I said no.
Then he got mad and forced me
to have sex anyway.
That was how the entire summer went.
I wanted to tell my friends
about what Mattias was doing.
I wanted to say
that I was unhappy.
But it was hard
to find the words.
One night I saw a TV show
about bad relationships
and sexual violence.
I watched the show
a few times.
It felt familiar to me.
I decided
to break up with Mattias.
After a while, I was able to tell
my friends
about what Mattias had done to me.
When I told them
I felt a little better.
My friends supported me.
Now I feel able to say no
when something feels bad.
It is hard,
but I am practicing.
You never have to have sex
against your will.
Even if you have had sex before,
or if you are already
in the process of having sex.
If someone wants
to have sex with you
they must ask for
your consent.
If someone has sex with you
without your consent,
that is sexual violence.
If you have experienced
sexual violence
you may feel bad.
Talk to someone you trust.